Find something you love!

Surprise..surprise… not everyone is in love with their job. As a mentor, friend, colleague I always hear variations of:
‘meh it’s ok’
‘I just don’t love this’
‘it’s good money’
‘feeds the family’
‘it’s allright, like the people’
‘it’s just a job’
‘it’s convenient and pays the bills’
‘putting kids through college is not cheap and we are not in Sweden!’
‘ugh, got the golden cuffs on, addicted to my paycheck’
‘it’s boring but I am good at it’
…. and so on…

Reality is this: it is ok that not everyone is head over heels for their job. Yes, despite all LinkedIN articles and HBR catchy headlines, this is reality for millions of people. At some level it is ‘just’ a job and only ‘one’ part of your true life. So my response usually goes ‘ok, but find something you love to do. Not saying find a job … find something in your life that you enjoy doing’. This could be as simple as cooking, writing, jumping off planes, surfing, book club, spending time with your kids, bird watching, traveling, blogging 😉 … you get the idea.

Recently in one of these sessions tables were turned… and I was asked ‘huh ok … so what is that something that you love to do, what is that for you?’. For a moment, which felt like an eternity, I was stumped… was not expecting the question. Before I could open my mouth, visuals of my pottery studio and things I have made popped into my brain. Told her ‘I love making stuff out of clay… oh let me show you’

Here is ‘shooting star’:
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Here is ‘fun’:
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Here is ‘hope’:
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Before boring her I stopped at showing her these 3 clay and porcelain ornaments. She got the point – and was surprised, said she expected that my thing would have been something more lofty or tied to work. Hmmm … Will probe on that next time, but for now let’s adjourn; I have a to run to the pottery studio!!!

So have you found something you love to do??

Maldives: Kuredu exploration continues

20140606-161156.jpgWhen you swim and a fleet of fish swim behind you and when you stand they circle around you and play — you can’t help but feel happy and so enchanted by the Maldivian ocean.

Truly our one big regret is not having underwater camera to capture and show you all these amazing fish. IF you ever decide to visit Maldives you MUST buy an underwater camera or some kind of gear so you can take pictures.

The food debacle continues… today we spent 30 min until staff finally directed us from one closed restaurant to another for a simple lunch. We ended up eating at the O Restaurant, which suppose to be the upscale one. Setting was pretty over the water and with breeze coming through windows. Food was OK and was served buffet style – we expected menu and service since it is advertised as a la carte. Well, we embraced the unexpected and ate up!!

A long walk on the beach took us to the island’s sandbar. So far on each of the islands we had the joy of exploring a sandbar. We can confidently say the Kuredu sandbar is the best and biggest. Saw 3 types of fish and a small shark.
20140606-161237.jpgOn our way back from the sandbar we decided to walk through the center of the island, where there is a sandy road and bit of jungle. This is also the main road where they drive golf carts (taxi) to shuttle people from point to point. We heard this funny squealing and decided to see what it was. See for yourself — they were two baby birds.
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So the full day of sailing we were looking forward to… it was cancelled this morning via a letter at out door. Reason was there was not enough people signed up to do it. Frankly this gave us the opportunity to schedule excursions and reef snorkeling with the diveshop instead of the hotel. Diveshop staff has been very helpful and providing clear information.

Tonight the food theme is Arabian and we were told there will be a White Party at the bar — we have our white dresses ready!

We noticed this little charm lock at the beach swing. How adorable… we dedicate it to all of our readers, may you have a love filled fantastic summer 🙂
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What’s your new vacation destination?

If you have been following our blog you know we are crazy about a few things… and one is definitely traveling. As we are getting ready for an upcoming trip (wooooo!!!) we wondered about what our readers are up to.

So tell us…. where are you headed next? and why? we would love to hear your stories.

An old and wise saying goes something like this: a man who has traveled knows more than a man who has only read books.

And we say — a man who has travelled definitely has more fun than one who has not traveled !!!

The Art of Unhappiness

I recently read a fellow blogger’s writing about The Art of Happiness. It was written so well and thoughtfully by Gede Prama. It actually compelled me to write this piece – so thank you Gede for inspiring me!

So… as many people, I excel al the art of unhappiness. Not sure where it’s exactly coming from but I have the talent for it. I look around I know I am not the only gold medalist either – in fact some people have gone for platinum and diamond encrusted medals in this art-sport.

1. If you are unsatisfied regardless of small and big wins – personal or business, you have a shot at this sport.

2. If you are never quite fulfilled and always feeling that something is missing, and think if you only had more… you have a shot at a medal in this sport.

3. If you are #2 and surrounded with others like you who can commiserate with you, go on endless rants about how it’s not good enough, how glass is always half empty, and only if… my friend you are a serious athlete in the art of unhappiness.

As I have been immersed in all 3 points – it is easy to recognize it in others when I see it. So easy to spot the person who is not going to be fulfilled even after negotiating a 20K better deal, or went on a great trip but just was not great enough because it did not involve a yatch or the right person in their arm. “People want you to be happy. Don’t keep serving them your pain.” — Rumi

Consciousness is the first step to waking up from this vicious spiral. So if you do feel it hang on to it and nurture it, you will be better off and start being happier.

I am not saying any of this with pride. In fact I hope to hold a mirror to myself and others so we can recognize the epidemic of unhappiness. It is certainly easier to be unhappy than happy as it’s easier to point out flaw and shortcomings endlessly. The higher energy, the better calling is to have the character and maturity to recognize this and aim at the opposite for a more satisfied life. Hold on! I know what you medal winners are thinking – no, I am not telling you to settle, or not to be ambitious or anything like it. I am only suggesting that taking a moment to recognize what you currently have and be happy for it … I promise it will not stop you from achieving more nor become less ambitious, it will make you enjoy the journey and the destination more. The real challenge and victory resides in attaining then spreading happiness.

Now that you read this, you should read Gede’s The Art of Happiness to complete the circle: Songs of Compassion
http://gedepramascompassion.com/

“Life consists of what a person is thinking about all day.” — Ralph Waldo Emerson

New.Year.Words. Lessons. Life

These are the words that I love a lot saying what I can’t say sometimes when I confused or sad or mad or even happy  they teach me something that I didn’t think before THANKS a LOT for putting all the letters and words in this beautiful meanings.

I just would like to share them with anyone who finds something from itself.

Don’t judge someone just because they sin differently than you.

Every saint has a past and every sinner has a future.

Be curious not judgmental.

Do small things with great LOVE.

Remember happiness is way of travel not a destination.

In life it’s not where you go it’s who you travel with.

Your children become who you are, so be who you want them to be.

Your beliefs don’t make you a better person, your behavior does.

Drop jealousy and envy, for they make you ugly, be loving be accepting and most of all be happy just the way you are.

Success doesn’t just come and find you you have to go out and get it.

If God shuts a door, stop bang on it! Trust that what ever is behind it is not meant for you.

You alone are enough. You have nothing to prove to anybody.

When life gives you a hundred reasons to cry, show life that you have a thousand reasons to SMILE.

EGO take the E off and let it GO!

Life is far too short. To be sad. To be mad. To hold regret. To look back. To be depressed. To be unkind. Do the reverse of all these counted.

Be crazy. Be stupid. Be silly. Be weird. Be whatever. Because life is too short to be anything but HAPPY.

Maybe I’m crazy but all the best people are.

Think HAPPY Be HAPPY.

Have LESS. Do MORE. Be MORE.

Wherever you are be all there.

When the devil keeps on asking you to look at your past. There must be something good in the future that the devil doesn’t want to you to see.

I don’t want you to save me. I want you to stand by my side as I save myself.

Still time to change the road you are on.

I’ll choose HONESTY over Perfection every single time.

When someone is nasty or treats you poorly, don’t take it personally. It says nothing about you but a lot about them.

Live in the MOMENT.

The cure for anything is salt water SWEAT TEARS or the SEA.

Forget what it hurt you but never forget what it taught you.

No one ever get tired of loving. They got tired of waiting, assuming, hearing lies, saying sorry, and hurting.

When I give food to the poor they call me a saint. When I ask why the poor have no food they call me communist.

Always trust your first gut instincts. If you genuinely feel in your heart and soul that something is wrong, it usually is.

Some of the most poisonous people come disguised as friends and family.

Spend a little more time trying to make something of yourself and a little less time trying to impress people.

Waiting for someone else to make you happy is the best way to be sad.

Honesty is an expensive gift; don’t expect it from cheap people.

If you tell the truth you don’t have to remember anything.

LIVE LOVE like there is no tomorrow.

Respect your self enough to walk away from anyone or anything that no longer serves you, grows you or makes you happy.

Don’t hate what you don’t understand.

Different is beautiful.

A great relationship is about two things first find similarities second respect the differences.

I don’t like standard beauty there is no beauty without strangeness.

Old ways won’t open new doors.

Cultivate the habit of being grateful.

Being happy doesn’t mean that every thing is perfect. It means that you’ve decided to look beyond the imperfections.

I’m thankful to all those said no to me. it’s because of them I did it myself.

It is better to be hated for what you are than to be loved for what you are not.

No reason to stay is a good reason to go.

You cannot hang out with negative people and expect to live a positive life.

The greatest prison people live in, is the fear of what other people think.

Be with those who help your being.

Saying yes to happiness means learning to say no to things and people that stress you out.

Don’t find fault find a remedy anybody can complain.

Never respond to rudeness. When people are rude to you, they reveal who they are, not who you are don’t take it personally be silent.

Before you react think.

Before you spend, earn.

Before you criticize, wait.

Before you pray, forgive.

Before you quit, try.

Many times we have to just stop and ask ourselves sincerely do I really happy on the way of life that I’m on? Or should I change my way my life and how? Or maybe you just  have to learn something new.

Hope coming near to the end of this year our worries, disappointments bad experiences and all sort of that we call bad or negative was in our life just to change us to be better person and to make us able to see the life with different perspectives to enlighten our minds and hearts to see what was missing from our lifes.