What our life’s depend on? I hear you money-lie-hate. The real life is like that sure I’m not blind.Really hard to find this values nowadays and even if you be loyal they don’t like it because you are not cheating, hating, greedy they will judge you why you are different? While everyone the same. You will feel lonely in a crowd but don’t give up keep what matters most to you even all the rest of the world gone crazy. Or maybe only you will be only the crazy. Keep respect- trust- love even no one deserve it but you deserve yours.
Drink the friendship
This is how you get thirsty to friendship from time to time and you just want to drink it while you enjoy your drink. Even if you don’t have any friends or you have friends but maybe you don’t have time or they are far far away that you can’t share a drink of the friendship the share of heart. We need it more we search for it more did you ever think to give a drink to a person in line behind you no matter who was? This weekend or anytime you feel how about to share something with someone with love and humanity without any expectations.
Cause expectations are the Giant Killers!
Don’t let them trap you.
To think or not to think
I know this title is pretty familiar. I wonder how many of you is not familiar with lifes difficulties? Are there any people there? I really will be very surprised or really happy for them. Im pretty sure many of you faced this difficulties in some phases of your life or still facing or unfortunately you will rest of your life and during those difficult times maybe or most of the times we thought we were the only one or maybe not only one but most helpless one or even we felt no hope all darkness and sometimes even we tried and tried again but it didn’t work you tried to get help from most closest friends and family but doesn’t work and even was worser because during all that chaos you lost your faith you lost your kind thoughts you lost your trust you lost YOU. Actually while all this happening, for some people this takes few days or months for some few years for some 10 years for some20-30 or all their life. Sometimes you get really tired from trying and you start to think is it worth it to live is it worth to live in such world is it worth to even think and think and think over over and over again until you feel dizzy, sick, nothing but earth but again you start to think why you have to live in war in injustice in lot of work but even not enough to eat or live while others can or you can but others cant why??? etc… etc… again. You start not to think act like there is no such thing like that even you are drowning by problems you are not excepting them telling yourself you are all right you are strong you are well trying not to think over over over and over again.
And maybe this is the only way the dead end of how to live in this world from the beginning until end.
To think or not to think
To learn when you should stop and what kind of thoughts you allow in your network changes everything to became expert is not easy it takes a lot effort its a skill like when you learn a new language or any skill with practice gets better and better… sure you will fail thousands of times but this is totally ok. Don’t forget you need just yourself to do that no one else because no one else will live behalf of you take care and try to close your ears to those clogging you and just trying to destroying you instead building so its better to stay away even you will stay all alone because its better to stay true to yourself than lying to gain others.
good luck everyone!
Is that possible? Is that true? I need vacation. I need forever. I can hear you right from here you are also saying I need that too (with big warm smile). Who doesn’t? Maybe few very luck people I wanna meet them please to feel really on vacation and to make sure this is on earth and real 🙂
Actually I need vacation from jealousy from anger from harm will from evil eye from destroy from war from money from hard work from addiction from insult from bullying from unjust from unfaithful should I count more and more I think I should stop here not because this is the end of the bad things or don’t have more to count but because all we know the rest and even lived once all of this feelings or situations and still living.
How about what we really want to do about that? are we really creating right circle around us? Yes I know this is not what normal vacation include but by being loving, caring, happy for others happiness and success, calm, willing good, sharing, generous but of course not stupid (even people do think we are but usually they are blind enough could not see what is the real purpose of helping others what means to you) and this is not always money but sometimes spending time with someone who need you or speaking to them or doing something for them easy for you but hard to do for them or what doesn’t have value for you will mean to much for other. but please don’t forget you are a small line of this circle so you have to be wise to choose this circle which people to avoid and which people must include in this vacation.
Do we really need a vacation from this world and this body’s? or just from any kind of toxic people around us? Maybe all. so we should wait in this world until our new great journey or vacation starts but while waiting hope we could find our forever vacation circle in this world and stuck to that even it seem to others selfish or like big ego but at least when you know that is your truth and that makes you you then let people call it hell and you are the evil. (that most of them blinding themselves in those full lies-life’s they thought they are living right way and they try to drop you into the same hell or their fake heaven and they are the angels) So be aware when you can create and live in your own hell or heaven. Why living others’s?.
Don’t expect people will tell you good for you! or you deserve this good things! or feel happy for you while doing something beneficial for yourself. Expect they will do it for them selves and while you are doing the same they will tell you how bad, selfish etc…and guilty you are this shows really who they are.
Until next vacation….
Life is short keep your circle clean as much as you can & live your vacation forever and full time!
Real Person Real Story
This time we have real story from Justine we want to thank her for accepting to sharing her story bravely with everyone and her story is about everybody and everyday life learning. Again and again thought us if you want and keep working for something you need to change or you need to accept it you have to be brave no matter how much you have to put on it and keep going in the direction that feels right just for you, not anyone else. We have to learn this greatness so be BRAVE!
I don’t need to say much more here is her story starts.
My name is Justine Brooks Froelker. In February 2011, my husband and I began our journey in the world of IVF. Gestational surrogacy was the safest way for us to have our children since I had two back surgeries in high school (including a year of my life spent in a body cast). IVF and 3 babies never to be born later, Ever Upward is conceived. After much mourning, confusion, anger and sadness, I got back up and started doing the work. The work to redefine; my life, myself, everything.
A big part of this journey has been telling my story, and ultimately educating people on how difficult, expensive and painful IVF can be and that sometimes you just don’t get the joy of motherhood from it. And telling my story to model, because we need to talk about it! And that yes, sometimes it is okay to say no more. And even more, it is okay to say adoption isn’t for you. And that after the work, you can take the step forward into a fulfilled childfree, yet childfull, life and stop being stuck in the childless life, even in this, our child obsessed world. But, mostly we must talk about it in order to embrace it all and practice our recoveries. Because only then will we own it all and find our ever upward.
Ever Upward is not the typical infertility book and blog filled with follicle counts, Clomid crazy train side effects and recounts of painful procedures. It is filled with struggle, hope and recovery, it is a blog about life. Ever Upward is my story, and yet every couple’s story; parent or not, because behind the wall of silence, shame, the smile, and the ‘I can do everything’ attitude lies millions of people suffering in silence with the pain of infertility and recovery. And yet our connection to our stories, is the only way back to the truth of who we are, to own ourselves again.
I am a Licensed Professional Counselor and a Certified Daring Way™ Facilitator (based on the research of Brené Brown) with a private practice in St. Louis, Missouri. For the last 15 years I’ve worked with clients using a combination of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy and Solution Focused Therapy in a straight-forward and non-shaming approach to create a safe space for clients to address concerns. I have extensive experience working with all ages on such concerns as anxiety, depression, relationships, infertility, addictions, perfectionism, eating and weight issues and common discontent.
In addition to my private practice, I am an adjunct faculty member at Saint Louis Community College, where I teach General Psychology. Additionally, I write as an expert therapist for the monthly publication St. Louis Health & Wellness Magazine. I also can be seen regularly on the St. Louis KMOV live midday show, Great Day St. Louis.
Ever Upward is about figuring out what to do with our lives when they didn’t turn out how we hoped. Ever Upward is the fight for and the practice of our recovery. It is my own battle and fight every day and part of this is helping others to see their way out of the dark. The Daring Way™ is a highly experiential methodology based on the research of Dr. Brené Brown. The method was developed to help men, women and adolescents learn how to show up, be seen and live braver lives. The primary focus is on developing shame resilience skills and developing a courage practice that transforms the way we live, love, parent and lead. It can be facilitated in clinical, educational and professional settings and is suitable for work with individuals, couples families, work teams and organization leaders. I work with clients through the curriculum in individual sessions or small group intensives.
Justine Froelker, MEd, LPC
JBF Therapy & Coaching
Today we have a very special guest who we really want to know more about him but I’m not gonna tell what or how is he doing just keep reading and be surprised or find what you exactly guessed!
Sven can you tell us about you little bit please?
Well, I think I’m a simple man with a lot of character traits. Here are some examples to describe
• adventurous and active
I always have to try new things. I can’t stand boredom or the same things again and again!
There is no free moment where I just sit at home and do nothing.
• disciplined and determined
When I’m determined to do something, I’ve a will that will neither break nor bend. I never
give up until I reach the goal. “Never take no for an answer” is my device!
I’m a funny person and I like to make other people laugh.
If something does not go according to plan or to my will 😀
• open-minded and enthusiastic
I like to meet new people and to learn new things. I’m always excited about new, good
ideas and like to inspire others.
• honest, straight and fair
If I do not agree with someone or something, I speak my mind. But there is always a certain
way to say it.
I stay true to myself. I’m not pretending. This is me and I hope you like me as I am!
Money and material can’t make you happy. But a heart of gold!
I like to compliment a girl. I give my best to be a gentleman. If I have a date, I open the
car door for my princess 😉
My zodiac sign is to blame for this ;-). I’m Taurus.
Hard shell – soft core
To be cheerful is just more fun than being sad 🙂
My best time I spend with my friends (or with my piano ;-)).• humorous
I like to make jokes (maybe you have already noticed) 😀
Every morning when I get up. The first thirty minutes I’m talking about nothing.
Small details make a big difference – Especially in the music world. Each note has to be
perfect, played with the right feeling, at the right time. This is the absolute minimum!
If something does not fit, I often do the opposite of what is expected. For the chef it’s not
always easy with me… but sometimes necessary 😉
Always an inappropriate saying at the wrong time 😮
I don’t like to plan and organize something down to the last details. I like it organized, but
with room for creativity.
• fond of animals
My dog, a German Shepherd dog named Tara, is my best friend. If I could I would have a
whole zoo 😀
In general, I’m always five to ten minutes late 😮
This is what other people say! 😉
As you can see above 🙂
Where were you born?
I was born on 05/05/1985 in Bern, the capital of Switzerland. I grew up in this region as well. At
this stage, I live and work in Fribourg, the neighboring city of Bern.
Where did you study or learn the music which you are performing? How long and hard did take to be where you are today?
We are a very musical family. My father sings, my mother played the keyboard and my brother is
the drummer. When I was five years old, I wanted absolutely to learn playing the accordion like my
grandmother. So one day my parents took me to the music store Baeriswyl in Guin, the neighboring
village where it all began. At first I was a little frustrated because I was quickly made clear that
I’m too young to play the accordion. I could neither hold nor look over it. But I was quickly
convinced of the new keyboards. So I started to take my first music lessons on this. Gradually, I got
more and more to the piano. I wanted to be as good as Jerry Lee Lewis :-). At this time I took a
music lesson per week, but practiced one to two hours per day. A few years later, my music teacher became independent and moved to Bern. I followed him and continued to attend a music
lesson every two weeks. When I started to work, my music teacher came to me to teach me at
home. However, I continued to practice every day and spent a lot of time in the music. I stopped
taking lessons when I was twenty years old because I had to join the army. After the army I bought
a new piano and kept going. At the time I spend, on average, two to three hours in the music per
day. I like to try out new styles and to arrange acoustic versions of great hits. In addition, the
music helps me to relax and recover.
On this occasion I would like to thank my parents who have allowed me that and supported me all
these years. Thank you very much!
What are the best artist you like?
Well, two of my biggest idols are Elvis Presley and Michael Jackson. I think that both artists were
real pioneers for their time. Perfectionists who were only satisfied with the best performance and
reinvented themselves over and over again.
Which kind of music are you performing?
That’s a good question. I perform not only one kind of music. I think the reason is that I like almost
every kind of music. I play from classical, pop and rock to blues and oldies. The main thing is that
it’s fun. Last June, I decided to start a YouTube channel. The first song I did was a complete
instrumental cover of the classic “Runaway” by Bon Jovi. Then I arranged a own version of “River
flows in you” by the South Korean pianist Yiruma. At the moment I’m writing an acoustic version
(piano/vocals) of the song “Use Somebody” by Kings of Leon. By the way, the release of this video is
planned for the spring ;-). As you can see, I am a very versatile musician. I hope to offer something
for every taste.
What’s your goal about your life?
As I said at the beginning: I think I’m a simple man. I want to live long and healthy and still inspire many people with my music.
What massage would you like to give to our readers?
Short and sweet: Don’t wait for a perfect moment, take a moment and make it perfect!
Thank you Sven for sharing such a lovely time with us.
For more information about Sven please visit
Website (coming soon): http://www.piano-music.ch
The life you want
The time is passing and will pass anyway
You can either spend it creating the life you want
or spend it living the life you don’t want
and of course the choice is yours
For this week make a choice for yourself for your life and hopefully choosing the life you want even without thinking a moment just choose the life you want once and live it proudly no matter anyone or anything once put yourself and your life first some people will call you selfish or under other unpleasant names let them do that by knowing they are so poor that they are not choosing the life they want but living unwanted life’s.
New.Year.Words. Lessons. Life
These are the words that I love a lot saying what I can’t say sometimes when I confused or sad or mad or even happy they teach me something that I didn’t think before THANKS a LOT for putting all the letters and words in this beautiful meanings.
I just would like to share them with anyone who finds something from itself.
Don’t judge someone just because they sin differently than you.
Every saint has a past and every sinner has a future.
Be curious not judgmental.
Do small things with great LOVE.
Remember happiness is way of travel not a destination.
In life it’s not where you go it’s who you travel with.
Your children become who you are, so be who you want them to be.
Your beliefs don’t make you a better person, your behavior does.
Drop jealousy and envy, for they make you ugly, be loving be accepting and most of all be happy just the way you are.
Success doesn’t just come and find you you have to go out and get it.
If God shuts a door, stop bang on it! Trust that what ever is behind it is not meant for you.
You alone are enough. You have nothing to prove to anybody.
When life gives you a hundred reasons to cry, show life that you have a thousand reasons to SMILE.
EGO take the E off and let it GO!
Life is far too short. To be sad. To be mad. To hold regret. To look back. To be depressed. To be unkind. Do the reverse of all these counted.
Be crazy. Be stupid. Be silly. Be weird. Be whatever. Because life is too short to be anything but HAPPY.
Maybe I’m crazy but all the best people are.
Think HAPPY Be HAPPY.
Have LESS. Do MORE. Be MORE.
Wherever you are be all there.
When the devil keeps on asking you to look at your past. There must be something good in the future that the devil doesn’t want to you to see.
I don’t want you to save me. I want you to stand by my side as I save myself.
Still time to change the road you are on.
I’ll choose HONESTY over Perfection every single time.
When someone is nasty or treats you poorly, don’t take it personally. It says nothing about you but a lot about them.
Live in the MOMENT.
The cure for anything is salt water SWEAT TEARS or the SEA.
Forget what it hurt you but never forget what it taught you.
No one ever get tired of loving. They got tired of waiting, assuming, hearing lies, saying sorry, and hurting.
When I give food to the poor they call me a saint. When I ask why the poor have no food they call me communist.
Always trust your first gut instincts. If you genuinely feel in your heart and soul that something is wrong, it usually is.
Some of the most poisonous people come disguised as friends and family.
Spend a little more time trying to make something of yourself and a little less time trying to impress people.
Waiting for someone else to make you happy is the best way to be sad.
Honesty is an expensive gift; don’t expect it from cheap people.
If you tell the truth you don’t have to remember anything.
LIVE LOVE like there is no tomorrow.
Respect your self enough to walk away from anyone or anything that no longer serves you, grows you or makes you happy.
Don’t hate what you don’t understand.
Different is beautiful.
A great relationship is about two things first find similarities second respect the differences.
I don’t like standard beauty there is no beauty without strangeness.
Old ways won’t open new doors.
Cultivate the habit of being grateful.
Being happy doesn’t mean that every thing is perfect. It means that you’ve decided to look beyond the imperfections.
I’m thankful to all those said no to me. it’s because of them I did it myself.
It is better to be hated for what you are than to be loved for what you are not.
No reason to stay is a good reason to go.
You cannot hang out with negative people and expect to live a positive life.
The greatest prison people live in, is the fear of what other people think.
Be with those who help your being.
Saying yes to happiness means learning to say no to things and people that stress you out.
Don’t find fault find a remedy anybody can complain.
Never respond to rudeness. When people are rude to you, they reveal who they are, not who you are don’t take it personally be silent.
Before you react think.
Before you spend, earn.
Before you criticize, wait.
Before you pray, forgive.
Before you quit, try.
Many times we have to just stop and ask ourselves sincerely do I really happy on the way of life that I’m on? Or should I change my way my life and how? Or maybe you just have to learn something new.
Hope coming near to the end of this year our worries, disappointments bad experiences and all sort of that we call bad or negative was in our life just to change us to be better person and to make us able to see the life with different perspectives to enlighten our minds and hearts to see what was missing from our lifes.
Weather’s surprise… & end of the world
A business trip to NY turned into a brief nightmare when weather turned bad at our destination. Flight cancellation had me and 2 coworkers scrambling to find a way to get home. As other people are worried about the world ending tomorrow and hunkering down in Sirince, Turkey here we are flying to a weird destination and driving. As we made alternate plans started accepting the fact and mother nature’s surprise for us we started relaxing. We are now experts in Laguardia airport, booking and rerouting flights, hotels, rental cars, finding chargers for devices and anything you can think of. This picture I took at Bryant Park became my reminder of ‘all will be OK’. In a funny way despite circumstances we are now enjoying ourselves. We even said ‘what an adventure!’. Now that’s what I call good attitude.
Surprise Yourself – live in a different country for a few months!
My friend and fellow blogger Chloe – recently took time to live in Paris for 3 months. Hey journey, though ending soon…is soooo inspiring. Reminded me that we don’t have the stay static — no matter how much you love your hometown or city you live in, you might surprise yourself by living in a different country, mingling with the locals, settling into the daily patterns of a new city, breathing its history, and more. The experience will change you and enrich your life. There is a huge difference between being the transient tourist vs. the transplant who is settling in the neighborhood for a while. You will be surprised at what you love there, what you miss back home. Sure, I hear you…not an easy thing to rig up – but then again there is not much in life that’s easy (so as an excuse it is a weak one). Chloe’s blog entries brought back memories of Paris, but most of all the surprising and exciting idea it triggered: “hey – why just take a 2 week vacation somewhere, go, live it up for a while.”
Read about her how she did it on her blog along with her photos of Paris: http://devivreunreve.tumblr.com/